“I'll do my part if you do yours.”
An agreement based on conditions, exchange, and keeping score can leave both spouses waiting for the other to move first.
Relationship Hacking Video Course
Transform Your Marriage from Agreement to Lasting Commitment
Discover what your marriage is really running on—and how to move from a contract of conditions to a covenant of love.
$19one time
Not a subscription. Lifetime access.
About one hour of video
All lessons unlocked
Work through it together
Six lessons
A practical course for couples who want to grow
One-time purchase•
Lifetime member access•
All 11 lessons unlocked at once•
Workbook and printable resources•
One exercise each week
The central question
What is your marriage really running on?
Every marriage runs on an agreement. The course helps you identify the agreement beneath your habits, words, and expectations—then teach you to change it.
“I am for you, regardless.”
A commitment rooted in love, faithfulness, and a shared calling, even when feelings and circumstances change.
The aim is not to deny that people make agreements. It is to see whether your marriage is being held together by conditional exchange or by a deeper, freely chosen commitment.
A clear path forward
See it. Understand it. Repair it. Rebuild it.
Six short lessons guide you from recognition to practice, with biblical and practical tools for couples at every stage.
Recognize the pattern
Spot the scorecard before it takes over and understand how your marriage's operating system shapes daily interactions.
Understand covenant
See what covenant means, what it never means, and how sacrificial love changes the way you give and receive respect.
Practice repair
Learn to respond to conflict with humility, responsibility, and the kind of repair that restores connection rather than merely ending disagreement.
Inside the course
A practical framework for a stronger marriage
In From Contract to Covenant, pastoral counselor Dan Blakeslee walks you through six short video lessons that help you see what your marriage is really running on and how to change it.
You and your spouse will learn to:
- ✓Spot the scorecard before it takes over.
- ✓Understand what covenant means, and what it never means.
- ✓Give what doesn't come naturally: the love and respect Ephesians 5 describes.
- ✓Repair quickly after a fight.
- ✓Rebuild the friendship that makes a marriage worth living in.
Your practice companion
Each lesson takes about ten minutes. You also receive a Contract vs. Covenant Assessment, a couple's workbook, printable handouts, and one simple exercise each week to practice together. A bonus lesson shows you what to do with your next 34 days.
Who this is for
This course is for couples in healthy marriages who want to grow. It is not designed for marriages involving abuse.
Your guide
Daniel “Dan” Blakeslee
Pastoral counselor, author, speaker, and the creator of Relationship Hacking—a practical framework for understanding different “operating systems” and building a marriage on covenant instead of contract.
Experience that has met real couples in real life.
Dan is a former Navy submariner and Chief Petty Officer, and he has counseled couples for more than thirty years. He writes the Relationship Hacking book series and is the bestselling author of those books.
Dan and his wife Michele have been married since 1981 and have two daughters.
Complete curriculum
All 11 lessons, available from the first minute
Nothing is released on a schedule. Every lesson is unlocked at once, so you can move through the course together at your own pace.
Module: Course Overview
- 01Introduction to a Covenant NetworkBegin with the framework for the course.
Module: The Six Lessons
- 01Lesson 1: The agreement you never knew you signedRecognize the agreement beneath your marriage.
- 02Lesson 2: The scorecard marriageExamine scorekeeping and conditional exchange.
- 03Lesson 3: The night God walked aloneExplore the foundation of covenant commitment.
Module: The Six Lessons, continued
- 04Lesson 4: The Reversal at the Heart of Ephesians 5Understand sacrificial love and mutual respect.
- 05Lesson 5: Covenant RepairLearn a practical path toward repair after conflict.
- 06Lesson 6: Friendship and the Renewed CovenantRebuild the friendship that makes marriage worth living in.
Module: Moving Forward
- BBonus Lesson: From Insight to Habit: Your Next 34 DaysTurn what you have learned into an actionable next step.
- SScripture IndexA reference for the biblical texts explored in the course.
- BBibliographyFurther reading and source references.
- CCopyright Notice
Everything in your member area
A complete learning path, not just a video playlist
Watch, discuss, assess, and practice. These resources help a good idea become a shared habit.
All 11 lessons
Eight video lessons, plus the Scripture Index, Bibliography, and Copyright Notice.
Contract vs. Covenant Assessment
A practical tool to help you see what your marriage is currently running on.
A couple's workbook
Guided exercises for meaningful discussion, reflection, and weekly practice.
Printable handouts
Useful references to print, share, and return to as you learn together.
One weekly exercise
One simple practice each week to turn insight into action.
Bonus next-34-days lesson
A practical guide for what to do with the next 34 days after the course.
Lifetime access
Return to every lesson and resource whenever you and your spouse need it.
Designed for two
Each lesson is short enough to make regular couple conversations realistic.
Skills you will build
Move from insight to everyday practice
The course is designed to help couples do eight things—not merely understand them, but practice them together.
- Identify and eliminate scorekeeping in relationships
- Understand the true meaning of commitment
- Develop strategies for repairing after conflict
- Cultivate friendship and intimacy in your marriage
- Practice the art of unconditional support
- Rebuild trust and connection effectively
- Communicate needs in a healthy manner
- Navigate relationship challenges with confidence
See the course introduction
A little less than an hour to a clearer direction
Each lesson takes about ten minutes, so you can complete the six video lessons in roughly one hour—or take one lesson each day, each week, or at whatever pace fits your marriage.
The entire member area is unlocked from the first minute. Start when you are ready, and return whenever you want to practice again.
Start the Six-Lesson Course — $19Course introduction video. If the preview does not load, you can still begin the course after checkout.
Reviews of this course
Useful depth without a heavy homework load
Here is what reviewers said about the course, followed by the credentials behind its creator.
★★★★★
“The insights I gained helped my clients create healthier communication patterns. Very well done, thank you! I thought the ‘hacking’ and ‘operating system’ analogies were clever.”Jessica L. Marriage Coach · 5 stars
★★★★★
“A Powerful Biblical Framework That Transforms How Couples Understand Each Other!”Frank H. Online Reviewer · 5 stars
★★★★★
“Centered on Epistle to the Ephesians 5:33, it clearly explains sacrificial love and strengthening respect in a balanced, practical way.”Lynn W. Relationship Blogger · 5 stars
★★★★★
“The practical strategies provided helped my own relationship flourish remarkably and the insights I gained helped my clients create healthier connections.”Kevin M. Marriage Coach · 5 stars
★★★★★
“It's easy to follow, but there's still enough depth to make you think and look at things from a different angle. It's not just something you breeze through and forget — it actually sticks with you.”Mike C. USA · 5 stars
★★★★☆
“The idea of honor and nurture as different operating systems gave me a new lens for understanding conflict. It encouraged small, intentional habits rooted in faith, reminding me that strong marriages are built through practice, humility, and daily grace.”James P. Counseling Professional · 4 stars
30+ years counseling couples
Creator of the Relationship Hacking series
Married to Michele since 1981
Is this another lecture series with no practical value?
Each lesson is paired with an assessment, workbook, printable handouts, and one simple weekly exercise so you can practice together.
Will we have to wait weeks for new material?
No. Every module is unlocked from the first minute. You can do one lesson each day, one each week, or move at your own pace.
Do we need to be experienced Christian couples to benefit?
No prior knowledge is required. The course is designed for all relationship stages. Even engaged couples can benefit from learning what a covenant marriage means.
What if our marriage is already struggling?
The course is for couples in healthy marriages who want to grow. It is not designed for marriages involving abuse. If anyone is unsafe, seek help from a pastor, qualified Christian counselor, or appropriate emergency resource.
Will our results depend on how much effort we put in?
Yes. Outcomes are proportional to the time and effort you invest in the exercises and discussions. If both spouses participate, you can expect improved communication, deeper understanding, and a more fulfilling relationship.
Common questions
A few things couples ask before starting
Will I have access to all modules at once?
Yes, every module is unlocked for you to explore at your own pace. You can do one lesson each day, or focus on one lesson each week.
What topics does the course cover?
The topics are listed on this page, but the course covers key topics such as commitment, conflict resolution, and enhancing intimacy.
Who is this course suitable for?
This course is perfect for any couple from newlyweds to those who have been married for years. Even engaged couples can benefit from this course by understanding a covenant marriage.
Do I need any prior knowledge before starting?
No prior knowledge is required; this course is designed for all relationship stages. Having read one of the Relationship Hacking books is helpful, but not mandatory.
What kind of outcomes can I expect?
You can expect an outcome proportional to the time and effort you put into the exercises and discussion questions. If both spouses participate then you can expect improved communication, deeper understanding, and a more fulfilling relationship.
30Day guarantee
Not satisfied? Get a full refund.
We believe in the value of this course and are confident it will help you achieve your goals. That's why we offer a full 30-day risk-free money-back guarantee. Go through the content, explore the lessons, and put what you learn into action. If at any point within the first 30 days you feel the course isn't right for you or doesn't meet your expectations, simply reach out to us. We'll process your refund promptly — no questions asked. There's absolutely no risk in getting started today, only the opportunity to learn, grow, and succeed with complete peace of mind.
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From Contract to Covenant
The Six-Lesson Video Course
A practical, biblical framework for couples who want to move from agreement to lasting commitment.
$19USD
one-time purchase
Start the Six-Lesson Course — $19
one-time purchase
Not a subscription. All lessons unlock immediately. Lifetime access.
Your purchase includes
- All 11 member-area lessons
- Eight video lessons, about ten minutes each
- Contract vs. Covenant Assessment
- A couple's workbook
- Printable handouts
- One exercise each week
- Bonus next-34-days lesson
- Lifetime access
- 30-day, no-questions-asked refund guarantee
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A timely conversation, not a rushed decision
You do not need to wait for a crisis to begin changing your marriage.
The lessons are ready whenever you are. Because every module is unlocked at once, you can begin today and return together as often as you need.
Choose your next step
Start at the right depth for your marriage
Your next chapter can begin with one honest conversation
Move from agreement to lasting commitment.
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